The White Falcon - 26.11.1980, Blaðsíða 3

November 26, 1980 White Falcon 3
An interview with K.C.’s James Frey
James Frey
James Frey was baptized last
week. His father, James Frey, was
at the ceremony. So was his grand-
father, James Frey. "So what"
you're saying, "they all have the
same name." Ordinarily a grand-
father, father and a son with the
same name isn't a big deal. What
makes this trio of James Freys
noteworthy is the grandfather. You
see, little James Frey's grand-
father is the manager of baseball's
American League Champions, the
Kansas City Royals.
Jim Frey, the manager, was here
in Iceland last week with his wife
visiting his son and daughter-in-
law and their one year-old son.
The son is CT2 James Frey of the
Naval Facility who is in Iceland
for a two year tour with his wife
and young son.
If you are having trouble re-
membering James Frey, before this
year, don't worry. Not too many
people know of his career in organ-
ized baseball before taking over as
Where does child abuse begin?
by Commander Eli Breger
WASHINGTON (NES)...
,Q: Where does discipline end
land child abuse begin?
This question is often asked by
parents and professionals
working with families. Re-
viewing history we see severe
maltreatment of children,
physically, emotionally and
through work demands. To-
day’s notion that childhood
should be a pleasurable,
carefree time in which to grow
and develop, reflects society’s
changing psychological view.
Many parents regard dis-
cipline and punishment as
identical—they are not. How-
ever, both are involved in
training children toward
socially acceptable behavior.
Discipline implies teaching
and training for skills not yet
acquired. The major portion
of our efforts should fall into
this category. Parents should:
• Provide appropriate
models through their be-
havior.
• Communicate to the child
on his or her age level.
» Pay close attention to the
child’s behavior.
• Interrupt misbehavior
and correct it with word and
action; this requires endless
repetition and patience.
Punishment need not be
physical. It can be verbal or
even a facial expression of
anger or disapproval. To in-
terrupt a child’s misbehavior,
an effective and reasonable
approach is to first tell the
child that his behavior is unac-
ceptable. Should the misbe-
havior continue, parents
should:
• Remove the child from
the situation; insist on a time
out.
• Explain how the behavior
is inappropriate.
• Ask him or her to think
about it.
If the child becomes involved
with the same situation at a
later date, ask the child if he
can explain what he is doing
wrong and what can he learn
by it.
Differences exist in parents’
concept of discipline and pun-
ishment. There are also dif-
ferences between parents in
the same family. Approaches
vary. On one hand, training is
characterized by providing
models, verbal appeal, verbal
forewarning and preparedness
to repeat oneself patiently. On
the other hand, there are
parents who live by the saying
“spare the rod and spoil the
child.”
These parents operate on
the punishment level rather
than the discipline level. They
tend to be quite physical and
abusive—which is usually a
reflection of their own up-
bringing.
We often interact with our
children in the way our parents
dealt with us when we were
children. This force is very
powerful. This is not to say we
cannot change, but only that it
is difficult.
Although good habits may
take longer to develop, they
will be brought about under
the influence of love rather
than fear.
Regardless of one’s concept
of discipline vs. punishment,
most people would agree that
the boundaries of discipline
become abusive—
• When punishment results
in an injury.
• When an infant is
physically punished.
• When a child is hit with a
closed fist or instrument, or is
kicked or thrown.
• When burns are inflicted.
Commander Eli Breger
is chief of psychiatry
services and chairman of
the Family Advocacy Pro-
gram at the Beaufort
Naval Hospital in Par-
ris Island.
skipper of the Royals. He started
in baseball 31 years ago at the
tender age of 18. He toiled for
fourteen years as a minor league
player in such places as Buffalo,
Columbus, Toledo and Omaha. After
retiring as an active player, he
moved into the coaching ranks in the
minor leagues, which lead to 10
years of coaching for the Baltimore
Orioles. And finally last year, he
was named to replace Whitey Herzog
as the manager of the Kansas City
Royals.
J03 Dave Guise, the White Falcon
Sports Editor, had the opportunity
to talk with James Frey and what
follows is the account of that in-
terview.
WF: How well were you received by
the fans and press in Kansas City
this year?
FREY: They were luke warm. Some
were cold. Whitey Herzog was
very popular as a personality and
he had success as a manager. It
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Keflavik births
SSgt. and Mrs. Claude Wiggins are
the parents of a daughter, Jennifer
Michelle, born November 6.
RM1 and Mrs. John Hudson are the
parents of a son, John Dale, born
November 12.
SM2 and Mrs. Patrick Jaworski are
the parents of a son, Jason Mathew,
born November 12.
DK1 and Mrs. Michael Berry are
the parents of a son, Michael
Anthony, born November 13.
0T2 and Mrs. Dennis Atteberry are
the parents of a son, Ryan Clark,
born November 16.
SK2 and Mrs. Carl Barger are the
parents of a son, Carl Edward Jr.,
born November 17.
Stereo sale begins Fri.
The Navy Exchange is having a
brand name stereo sale Friday
through December 5. A special
selection of stereo equipment by
eight top line companies is
available. There will be 15% off
all items under $40.00 and 10% off
all items over $40.00. Sale in-
cludes: portable radios, radio
cassette recorders, clock radios,
.video recorders, Sony recording
tapes, televisions and many more.
Plus another price reduction on all
discontinued and clearance items.
Sale is limited to stock on hand
of each vendor source while they
last.